The Bases

  What “The Bases” Really Mean in Modern Relationships

A Cultural Code for Intimacy

In dating and sexual culture, "the bases" serve as a metaphorical way to describe different levels of physical intimacy between partners. Borrowed from baseball terminology, the concept helps people discuss sensitive topics—like making out or sex—using coded, less explicit language.

The bases aren't universal, but they often follow this general framework:

• First base: Kissing or making out

• Second base: Touching above the waist (e.g., breasts)

• Third base: Touching below the waist

• Home run: Full sexual intercourse

Some people expand this to include halfway bases or even emotional bases, depending on the dynamics of their relationships.

Evolving Interpretations

Over time, what each "base" means has shifted. For one couple, second base might mean shirtless kissing. For another, it could include oral sex. There’s no strict definition—just mutual understanding.

The concept is often used by teens and young adults navigating their first sexual experiences. It provides a language to discuss boundaries without diving into technical or clinical terms.

In more mature relationships, the metaphor can still surface as playful banter or part of sexual storytelling. While informal, it reflects how people build trust and escalate intimacy in stages—physically and emotionally.

  FAQ

What does it mean to "get to first base" in a relationship?
This usually refers to kissing or making out. It's often seen as the first level of physical intimacy between two people.

Are the bases still relevant in adult relationships?
Yes, though more as a fun or nostalgic reference. Many adults use the concept playfully, not as a serious framework for intimacy.

Do all cultures use the same base system?
No. The "bases" are mostly a Western concept. Other cultures may use different metaphors—or none at all—to talk about intimacy.

Can emotional intimacy be part of the bases?
Some people create their own versions of the bases that include emotional milestones like saying "I love you" or discussing future plans.

Is there a fifth base?
Colloquially, some people jokingly refer to a "fifth base" for acts beyond intercourse or for intense emotional bonding. It's not a formal part of the system.