Parallel Polyamory

  Parallel Polyamory: Balancing Independence and Connection

Parallel polyamory is a style of non-monogamous relationship where partners maintain multiple romantic or sexual relationships that run alongside one another—but remain largely separate. Each relationship exists independently, with minimal crossover or interaction between partners’ other partners.

This form of polyamory appeals to people who value privacy, autonomy, and emotional boundaries. It allows individuals to explore multiple connections without merging all relationships into a single social network. For example, one partner may have a relationship with another person but doesn’t expect their partners to interact, cohabitate, or share social spaces.

Parallel polyamory offers freedom without the need for full community integration, providing balance for those who prefer structured separation. It’s an approach that respects each partner’s individuality while still fostering trust and honesty across all relationships.

How Parallel Polyamory Differs From Other Models

Polyamory comes in many forms—kitchen-table, hierarchical, solo, and more. What sets parallel polyamory apart is its focus on personal boundaries and emotional independence.

While kitchen-table polyamory encourages everyone to connect openly (even sharing meals together), parallel polyamory respects distance and privacy. It acknowledges that not every partner wants—or needs—to interact with others in their partner’s romantic circle.

This setup suits people who seek meaningful relationships but still want emotional space. It’s built on mutual consent, transparency, and respect, ensuring that all partners feel secure without forced intimacy or constant overlap.

  FAQ

What is a parallel poly relationship?
It’s a polyamorous relationship where partners maintain multiple relationships that run separately, with little to no interaction between their other partners.

What is an example of a parallel relationship?
For instance, one person dates two partners who know about each other but don’t meet or socialize. Each relationship functions independently and privately.

What is parallel polly?
“Parallel Polly” is an informal term describing someone who prefers the parallel polyamory model—valuing privacy and separation between relationships.

What is the difference between parallel polyamory and solo polyamory?
In parallel polyamory, partners may have committed relationships but keep them separate. In solo polyamory, individuals prioritize their independence and avoid merging lives or identities with any partner.

What is cowboying in polyamory?
“Cowboying” happens when someone enters a polyamorous relationship intending to eventually isolate one partner into monogamy, pulling them away from other relationships.