Handkerchief Codes

  Handkerchief Codes: The Language of Color and Desire

The Handkerchief Code, also known as the Hanky Code, began as a discreet communication system within the LGBTQ+ and BDSM communities during the 1970s. People wore colored handkerchiefs—usually in the back pocket—to signal specific sexual preferences, roles, or interests.

Each color represented something different. For example, a black handkerchief traditionally symbolized S&M interests, while a light blue one might indicate oral preferences. Placement mattered too: left pocket meant a dominant or active role, while right pocket signaled submission or receptivity.

Though rooted in queer history, the Handkerchief Code has evolved beyond its original form. Today, it’s both a fashion statement and a nostalgic tribute to underground culture—an expression of identity, confidence, and sexual openness.

Symbolism and Modern Interpretation

In modern contexts, the Hanky Code still appears in some BDSM scenes and pride events as a subtle yet meaningful form of self-expression. While it’s no longer a strict code of conduct, many still use it as a way to express desire through symbolism rather than words.

Beyond communication, handkerchiefs and bandanas now represent freedom of sexual identity and personal choice—echoing the same spirit of visibility and acceptance that defined their origins. Whether worn in a pocket, tied on the wrist, or styled as an accessory, they remain a vibrant symbol of sexual individuality.

  FAQ

How do people use the hanky code now?
Today, people use the hanky code more for self-expression than signaling. It’s common in pride events, fashion, and BDSM circles as a symbolic nod to sexual openness.

What bandana colors are safe to wear?
Neutral colors like white, gray, or red are generally safe to wear casually. However, certain colors—like black or yellow—still hold specific meanings in kink or queer communities.

What happens if we gift hanky to someone?
Gifting a handkerchief can be a flirtatious gesture or a friendly token. In some circles, it may also hint at interest in the subculture or shared sexual curiosity.

What is the bandana rule?
The bandana rule refers to wearing a colored handkerchief in specific pockets to indicate preferences. Left typically means dominant, right means submissive, and color defines the activity.

What does a black bandana mean?
A black bandana traditionally represents S&M or hardcore play in the hanky code. While meanings can shift over time, it remains one of the most recognized colors in BDSM symbolism.

What's the difference between a handkerchief and a bandana?
A handkerchief is a small square cloth for personal use, while a bandana is larger and used as an accessory. In hanky culture, both can carry coded meanings based on color and placement.