Gender Neutral Pronouns

  Getting Familiar With Gender Neutral Pronouns

What Are Gender Neutral Pronouns, Really?

Gender neutral pronouns are used to refer to someone without indicating their gender identity. These pronouns provide an inclusive way to speak about people whose gender is nonbinary, fluid, or simply not disclosed. They also help avoid assumptions in everyday interactions, especially in professional or digital spaces.

The most common gender neutral pronouns include they/them/theirs, but newer pronouns like ze/zir or xe/xem are also gaining traction in LGBTQ+ communities. These alternatives allow people to define how they wish to be seen and respected.

Why They Matter in Communication

Language reflects culture. The use of gender neutral pronouns promotes equality by recognizing that not everyone fits into the binary categories of "he" or "she." For nonbinary individuals, being addressed correctly isn't just polite—it's affirming.

This isn’t just a trend. It’s an evolution in how language adapts to meet real human needs. Schools, companies, and platforms are increasingly allowing users to choose their preferred pronouns in settings, bios, and profiles.

Using gender neutral pronouns correctly builds trust and shows you value others’ identities. In short: it’s a small habit with big social impact.

How to Use Them Correctly

If someone uses "they/them" pronouns, treat those words just like you would in plural use, even when referring to one person:

• “Alex said they would bring their laptop.”

• “Please let them know when the meeting starts.”

Other examples like ze/hir work similarly:

• “Jamie left hir phone at the desk. I gave it to hir.”

• “Ze prefers not to be contacted after 6 PM.”

When you’re not sure what pronouns someone uses, the best practice is to politely ask, or start with their name until you know.

  FAQ

What’s the difference between preferred pronouns and gender neutral pronouns?
Preferred pronouns reflect how someone identifies. Gender neutral pronouns are a type of preferred pronoun that avoids assigning a gender.

Are gender neutral pronouns only for nonbinary people?
No. Anyone can choose to use gender neutral pronouns, whether they’re nonbinary, exploring identity, or simply want to avoid gendered language.

Can I refuse to use someone's gender neutral pronouns?
Refusing to use someone’s pronouns can be seen as disrespectful or discriminatory, especially in inclusive workplaces or schools.

Are there gender neutral pronouns in other languages?
Yes. Many languages are adapting. For instance, Swedish has “hen” as a neutral alternative. Spanish speakers sometimes use “elle” or “@”/“x” endings.

Is it grammatically correct to use 'they' for one person?
Yes. Singular “they” has been in use for centuries and is widely accepted in modern grammar guides, including AP and MLA stylebooks.